Now look at the caption:
Now look at the top comment:"Every time he does this in public, instead of being ashamed and feeling like a bad mum, I take a picture"
"When I threw tantrums in public, my dad would throw a bigger tantrum until I stopped from embarrassment. +1 for hilarious parenting! :)"Now think about how all of this is wrong...
Let's try to understand how this situation can occur at all. Your child is lying on the floor in a public place and screams. You take pictures of it, put them on the internet and get complimented for your actions, which in return encourages you to continue doing this.
This is what happened just now, but what must have happened before?
You see, I'm not very old myself, but I think I understand how children think, because I have been one myself not that long ago. Children think by learning. They learn by observation. In my thinking that means that this kid has learned that he will get whatever he desires if he makes his mother feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. I bet the mother has given in to his screaming before and bought him ice cream because he wanted some and didn't get it at first. I bet the mother is actually a weak person who spoiled her child.
So to summarize, the kid learned that when he lies on the floor in a public place and screams, his mother will give him what he was denied before. Obviously he will do this to get whatever he wants, since it has worked before; he has learned how to manipulate his mother. Or to put it in other words: His mother taught him how to manipulate her.
At this point it should be clear why this is not "hilarious parenting", but the worst kind of parenting. The way kids grow up does not represent what kind of person they are, but to what kind of person they were raised.
It still puzzles me how it is so hard for so many people to realize this and instead think what this mother does is great.
Please stop spreading, you are raising children that will raise even worse children.

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